Sitting on the only chair in the room, surrounded by people sitting on their haunches, and sipping the Mangola while the slum children looked at her with their big, greedy eyes, Sera felt overwhelmed by guilt and sorrow. With each sip of the thick, sweet mango liquid she felt as if she was swallowing a blood clot. … The generosity of the poor, Sera marvelled to herself. It puts us middle-class people to shame.
Between work and trying to spend time with our host families or friends in Ghana, I think a lot of JFs find it difficult to make time for themselves – even though some days you really, really could use some. I’ve been able to do a bit of reading over the summer – so far I’ve read Nine Hills to Nambonkaha, The Shack, and currently I’m reading a book called The Space Between Us. As I was reading through this latest book the other day, I came across the passage above that rang so true to my experience here.
Monday morning I was supposed to attend a farmer group meeting with one of my AEAs, but I had to cancel my attendance and send Gregory to the group alone so that I could meet with my Director and Wayne (my EWB coach/the Team Lead for our MoFA sector) to discuss the work that the next EWB volunteer in the district will be doing.
I met with Wayne and Dr Quist, then attended the office management meeting, and afterwards noticed I’d missed 4 calls, all from Gregory. When I phoned him back, he asked if I’d be in the office for the afternoon. I told him I wasn’t sure, and asked him why. He replied that he wanted to come meet me, so he’d come by the office tomorrow morning. Gregory has been doing amazing work with AAB since I’ve gotten here, and I immediately started to worry what could be wrong. Was he angry I didn’t attend the meeting? Does he feel like I’m not investing enough time in him? Did something go wrong with his farmer group? Are they mad I told them I’d attend then cancelled? Ah! The whole rest of the day I worried about what would come the next morning.
So 9 o’clock rolls around Tuesday morning after what felt like an eternity, and Gregory approaches my door with one of the men from his farmer group. They step into my office and sit down in the chairs across from me. I hold my breath as Gregory begins to speak about my absence yesterday. He tells me the group was disappointed that I couldn’t make the meeting… It is their community’s tradition to formally welcome or thank someone by presenting them with eggs, “so that their breakfast plate is always full.” The group had collected a bag-full of eggs they had planned to present to me.
I can’t even explain the surge of emotions that washed over me. Guilt because I missed their meeting. Guilt particularly because I have the expendable income to buy eggs, or anything else I need for myself, and I know these farmers don’t have the same financial freedom. But still so, so much gratitude and love because these farmer groups really didn’t need to do anything at all.
Every farmer group meeting I go to I’m given a plastic lawn chair to sit on while the farmers themselves sit on wooden benches, maybe tree roots or maybe the ground. When I first arrived in the village I stayed in for my first week in Navrongo, every household gave me a handful of eggs as a welcome. In another one of my farmer groups’ community, the tradition is to give visitors water, but the group’s borehole had broken so instead they have me 10 GhC to buy minerals (pop) – enough money for about 16 bottles of coke.
I really wonder what kind of world we could live in if everyone had that level of generosity. Yes, at home we offer our guests a drink or give them the best seat in the house. But that drink never leaves us going thirsty ourselves. That seat may mean we’ll sit on the floor – but it’s probably carpeted anyways. I don’t think that the middle class is necessarily uncaring, but what we give of ourselves to our visitors, relative to what I’ve received here, well… It puts us middle-class people to shame.